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Counselling after an affair in Pontefract
In the words of someone whose trust has been broken
Since I found out, nothing has felt steady. One moment I am desperate for answers, the next I feel numb. I replay it constantly, looking for the clues I missed, picturing things I wish I could unsee. My sleep is broken, and the questions do not stop.
Part of me blames myself, wondering if I was enough, even though the choice was never mine to make. I do not know whether I want to leave, or to stay and try to rebuild. Some days both feel impossible.
However it reached this point, the ground I stood on has shifted, and I am trying to find my feet again.
If this feels like you
The shock of betrayal can shake you as deeply as any loss, and the intense, swinging emotions you are feeling are a normal response to it. You do not have to decide anything yet. If any of this is familiar, it may help to know what counselling can offer.
How counselling can help
Counselling offers a steady space to process what has happened, at your pace, without anyone rushing you toward forgiveness or a decision.
You can talk through the anger, the hurt and the intrusive thoughts, and begin to quieten them. You can make sense of what the betrayal has stirred up, and find firmer ground to stand on, whatever you choose to do next.
This is something you can explore on your own, to steady yourself and find clarity, or together as a couple if you both want to understand what happened and see whether trust can be rebuilt.
I'm Alison, a BACP registered counsellor. I offer counselling in person in Pontefract and Wakefield, and online across the UK. You are welcome to come as a couple or on your own. We can start with a free, no pressure 20 minute call so you can decide if I'm the right counsellor for you. Sessions are 50 minutes, at a pace that suits you.
If this feels familiar and you'd like support, please get in touch. A short, no pressure call or a simple message is enough to start.