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Counselling for low self esteem in Pontefract
In the words of someone who feels not quite enough
There is a voice in my head that is never satisfied. Whatever I do, it tells me it was not good enough, that I am not good enough. Someone can praise me and I still believe they are only being kind.
I compare myself to everyone, and I always come off worse. I find it hard to accept that anyone really likes me, and I half expect the moment they realise their mistake. I put others first, not because I am selfless, but because some part of me thinks I matter less.
I have felt this way so long it just seems like the truth about me.
If this feels like you
Low self esteem is rarely something you were born with. It is usually learned, often early, from messages that were never fair. What is learned can be gently unlearned. If any of this is familiar, it may help to know what counselling can offer.
How counselling can help
Counselling gives you space to hear that critical voice clearly, perhaps for the first time, and to ask where it came from and whether it has ever told you the truth.
Together we can look at the beliefs you carry about yourself, where they took root, and how they keep shaping the way you live. Slowly, you can begin to separate who you are from the harsh story you have been told about yourself.
You do not need to become someone else. You need room to see yourself more kindly and more accurately, and to feel that you are allowed to take up space.
I'm Alison, a BACP registered counsellor. I offer counselling in person in Pontefract and Wakefield, and online across the UK. We can start with a free, no pressure 20 minute call so you can decide if I'm the right counsellor for you. Sessions are 50 minutes, at a pace that suits you.
If this feels familiar and you'd like support, please get in touch. A short, no pressure call or a simple message is enough to start.